What will you do?
January 22nd, 2008 by emelda
You may find my next entry somewhat disturbing but i could not help myself but to write this down..i just want to know what will you do if you ever get into this situation? I know for real some woman will stay on in the relationship till every bits of her self esteem,pride and dignity gone down the drain because she wants to give it a try and believe that the relationship will still work despite what the “significant other” has done to her…
What will you do and how would you react?
- He lies/lied to you
- Call you names…BITCH!
- Tell you that you are not worth his time.
- Tell you that everyone in your past deserved to leave you. Because you are just a piece of shit.
- Tell you that you do not deserve to get a good treatment in anything you do..be it in love,life or work.
- Tell you how much regrets he has for not breaking up with you in early stage and being stupid for coming back together again.
- After all that…keep telling you over and over again how sorry he was for saying all that to you and promise that he will not do it again ,knowing very well the next “talk” you gonna have will end up at the same route again…?
Retaliate?Walk away? Stay? ………What will you do?
I pray everything will be fine … I just want her to be happy….
January 22nd, 2008 at 4:09 pm
Walk away is the best thing to do I guess. Through experience, I made a mistake which I stayed in it(r/ship) hoping that the other half would eventually change for a better..but only God knows, how much hurt it was…but in the end, when we “finally” have the courage to walk away, we learned something out of it, for us to be stronger, wiser and of course, not to repeat the same ‘ol mistake (staying in an unhealthy r/ship).
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January 22nd, 2008 at 8:09 pm
As easy as it is to tell your friend to leave, she herself has know it in her heart if she want to stand a lifetime of such disrespectfulness.
There is no point of telling her to leave if she cannot see what is wrong, still wonders if she should accept it as “life” and kept finding the “strength” to “deal” with this.
As friends, of course we can advise but ultimately it is her decision and let’s hope that she will make the right one.
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January 23rd, 2008 at 3:34 am
I don’t even have to read the rest after I read the first one on your list. White lies, understandable. But I can’t and won’t tolerate a lying other half esp if it had happened before. Easier said than done, but the wise and right decision is to simply walk away.
Do what makes you happy - and don’t look back!
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January 23rd, 2008 at 4:03 am
Dont u just malas when this kinda situation happened to a friend? Well, it’s hard to understand the person in that sorta situation unless it happens to ourselves, which hopefully don’t lah. touch wood. Well, i think I’d just leave. And then go do something to make myself feel good so I wouldnt have to feel so
about everything. Do all the stuffs that i couldn’t when i was with that mofo. Anything.. just leave…when she’s ready, she WILL know/feel it herself. It’s just a matter of time. I’ve seen alot of women nowadays bein such a ‘lovefool’ for these kinda losers. But they’re all okay now..and yea, rolling their eyes off whenever they thought of the past..what were they thinking?? pffft~ it’s just a matter of time. So for me, I WILL leave when am emotionally ready..if am not, I’ll be just like a beach ball goin back and forth…boing boing boing. Nah, love bah tu …love~ yai!
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January 24th, 2008 at 9:13 am
Walk away. Definitely. Easier said than done. But we actually can live without men/jerks like that. We should never define ourselves by who we are with (spouse/partner/boyfriend). We women should be living on our own worth and value. So, if the other opposite sex of the human race doesn’t think we are worth their time. Then, we shouldn’t was our time and tears on them. If men sees us crushed because of them, it’ll only make them feel better about themselves (they’ll probably brag about it too). But if we stand up and walk away, they’ll realize they’re actually nothing.
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January 24th, 2008 at 9:14 am
Great blog though!
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January 25th, 2008 at 9:54 am
As easy as we say to walk out of the one-sided relationship, it is purely up to your friend to be emotionally ready to move on. I guess when it comes to our fragile heart, making decision such as this can be very tough especially when you’re so “emotionally clingy” to that particular person. But you know what, once she has the gut to walk out she will definately feel more relief then staying in a emotionally unhealthy relationship. It doesn’t do any good to her self-esteem too. She should know that she is worth so much more than being highly disrespect by such mean person. You never know that person may be trying to get away from her for good by saying all tht heartless words.
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January 30th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Thanks peeps for your advice and comments here…It is not easy specially when it comes to the matter of heart.
Sigh….
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January 31st, 2008 at 1:46 pm
I maybe late in giving my opinion but better late than never rite?. I will walk away as soon as the second line you wrote there been said. Who the h**l he is calling ppl BITCH if the lady didn’t do anything close to being bitch.Have faith.
Anyway nice blog you have here. Can I put you link?
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January 31st, 2008 at 4:28 pm
Quirin- Thanks for dropping by.
Yea you can link me..:)
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